How Rumi works — and what we’ll never do with your data

Rumi is Quest's AI matchmaker. It reads what you share, remembers what you tell it, and suggests people you might click with. We built it to feel like a smart, private friend — not a black box.

This page is the plain-language version of how Rumi works. The legally binding version lives in our Privacy Policy.

Three things you can hold us to

1. Transparency

You should always know when AI is involved. Rumi has its own tab, its own visual identity (a jigsaw puzzle piece), and its own voice. Whenever Rumi takes an action — sends a message, makes a suggestion, remembers a fact — it is labeled as Rumi. We don’t ghost-write messages on your behalf that look like they came from you.

2. Authenticity

Rumi shapes how you're seen by Rumi, not how you're seen by your matches. Your profile is your words, your photos, your choices. Match-chat content stays between you and the person you're chatting with — Rumi only ever sees a message when you tap “Share with Rumi” yourself.

3. Equity

We design Rumi to consider compatibility broadly, not just similarity. The goal is to surface a wide range of people you might genuinely click with, rather than narrowing toward a single pattern. Building a matching system that does this well is hard and ongoing work, and we'll be transparent as we learn more about how Rumi behaves in practice.

What Rumi sees, and what it doesn't

Rumi sees:

• Messages you send directly to Rumi.
• Match-chat content you explicitly share with Rumi using the “Share with Rumi” button.
• Stated facts you've told Rumi (favorites, dealbreakers, the kind of dates you like).
• Anonymized signals about who you've liked or skipped, so it can prioritize matches.

Rumi does not see:

• Match-chat content, unless you explicitly share it.
• Your photos.
• Your contact information.
• Information about other users beyond what's needed for a specific match suggestion.

Who Rumi runs on

Rumi is powered by AI services from Anthropic and OpenAI — the same kind of models used by every major AI product. We chose them because they have strong privacy postures for commercial customers: under the terms we use, your content is not used to train their models. The full disclosure, including links to each provider's own data-use statement, lives in our Privacy Policy.

How to take it back

Rumi is the core of how Quest works, so you can't keep using Quest with Rumi turned off. If you want to withdraw your consent: Settings → AI & Data → Delete account & AI memory. One tap. Your account and everything Rumi remembered is gone within 14 days.

Questions? Email us at privacy@thequestapp.co with subject “AI question.” Or read the full Privacy Policy.